GOAL SETTING. Allishia, a recent high school grad, talks about how goal setting helped her succeed against the odds. This interview is from a segment of "Straight Talk," a tv show about teens produced by the Jacksonville Jaguars Foundation. We are proud to call them a partner with In Search of Me Cafe.



Q&A. On the set of "Straight Talk" a recent high school grad, Allishia, fields questions about how goal setting helped her succeed against the odds. "Straight Talk" is a tv show about teens produced by the Jacksonville Jaguars Foundation, a partner with In Search of Me Cafe.

MOTIVATION. This is a segment from a motivational speech that J. Beede gives at teen leadership conferences all over the country. During these assemblies, he gets students 'fired up' and informs them on how to set goals for their lives.



These practical tips on goal setting can

help make it easier to set and reach goals:
  1. Specific, realistic goals work best. When it comes to making a change, the people who succeed are those who set realistic, specific goals. "I'm going to recycle all my plastic bottles, soda cans, and magazines" is a much more doable goal than "I'm going to do more for the environment." And that makes it easier to stick with.
  2. It takes time for a change to become an established habit. It will probably take a couple of months before any changes — like getting up half an hour early to exercise — become a routine part of your life. That's because your brain needs time to get used to the idea that this new thing you're doing is part of your regular routine.
  3. Repeating a goal makes it stick. Say your goal out loud each morning to remind yourself of what you want and what you're working for. (Writing it down works too.) Every time you remind yourself of your goal, you're training your brain to make it happen.
  4. Pleasing other people doesn't work. The key to making any change is to find the desire within yourself — you have to do it because you want it, not because a girlfriend, boyfriend, coach, parent, or someone else wants you to. It will be harder to stay on track and motivated if you're doing something out of obligation to another person.
  5. Roadblocks don't mean failure. Slip-ups are actually part of the learning process as you retrain your brain into a new way of thinking. It may take a few tries to reach a goal. But that's OK — it's normal to mess up or give up a few times when trying to make a change. So remember that everyone slips up and don't beat yourself up about it. Just remind yourself to get back on track.

Reviewed by: D'Arcy Lyness, PhD
Date reviewed: May 2009


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